Hi! I am new here. Well, not really new to the blogging world. But it has been a good 13 years since I did that. My name is Tamara. I have always had a passion for traveling. When I was in middle school, I remember we were to pick out careers we wanted to go into. I chose a Flight Attendant. I never did become that flight attendant, I have toyed over the last couple years if I want to pursue that still. But right now, I need to stay put and be a mom while my youngest finishes out High School. So I never say never. But I did work for an airline and also for a Travel Agency before I had kids.
Like I said, I love all things travel. I have traveled to many countries. I even lived abroad for almost 8 years. I love to cruise. I have lost count on how many I have been on. I do road trips, camping. I just love being out and about seeing this beautiful world. If I go hiking, you know something is wrong with me. As I am not an avid hiker. But I do tend to hike every now and then. I enjoy the destination, just hate the journey upwards.
In 2022, I was diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer and also Diabetes at the exact same time. My good ole yearly check up came up with several issues that year. I was sick for the first 6 months trying to get meds regulated and surgery. Finally at the end of June, I wanted to take my life back and vowed to enjoy life to its fullest. And I was doing just that. I was out and traveling so much in 2022 and 2023.
But all of a sudden, in June of 2023, my life was about to change again. In May of 2023, my husband of 29 years and I were on a dream vacation. We went to Germany, Denmark, London and Iceland. I went before him and hit up Switzerland and France as well. The kids were getting older and it was our time to reconnect after raising them. I was so excited for this trip and to do it with him. Only to come home and one week later, he told me he was filing for divorce. We have had a hard relationship over the years. Between him working out of the country and out of state for several years, and raising 5 kids, it took a toll on us. But we always said when the kids are older and gone, things would settle down as a lot of our differences at the time were parenting styles. My kids would ask me over the years why I never left him when things got bad. And I always would say, "because the best it yet to come". I truly believed that the best years for us were ahead of us. And we were just getting to the sweet spot. This trip was the beginning of that. But he had decided months before this trip hat he was leaving me. I even asked him at that moment why we went on this trip together. And his response was, "well, I always wanted to travel there". He didn't need me for that and I didn't need him.
I was blindsided to an extent about the divorce. But I have since come to adjust to my new normal. I got a job at a Hospital where I am a Central Processing Technician. Don't know what that is? Don't worry, most people don't. We are part of the OR Services Team. We clean and Sterilize all the instruments used in the OR. It's not a glamorous job. Nor is it my dream job. But I knew my husband leaving meant I needed Medical Insurance. I needed to worry about retirement. And this job offers me both things. And with my age, I knew that going back to the University wasn't worth it cause then I would only get a few years out of it before I would retire.
The divorce was finalized on January 2, 2024.
This is a whole new year of firsts for me. I made it through Christmas all alone. And I will continue this year doing things for the first time either alone or doing things I have not done in a very long time or even perhaps never. And I would love to bring you all along for the ride as I document my real life.
Let's do this!
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