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My First Date after Divorce

 OK, so it happened!  I went on my first date since the divorce.  Let me tell you, I was so nervous.  I didn't know what to expect.  I went into it being just me.  When I talk about people here on my blog, I will just use first initials instead of names.  Just FYI.

So I met B on a dating app called Our Time.  He lives in Idaho and works here in Utah.  He had asked me out several times before and I always laughed it off.  When he finally asked me again, I do not know why I said yes, but I did.  I was so surprised that happened.  We were going on a lunch date during his work day, and it was my day off.  We went out to Mexican Food.  One of my favorite places, La Hacienda.  We had a great flow of conversations the whole time.  It was easy.  And I was just me.  When we left, we decided we would still text each other.  And it has now been two weeks and we do still text.  He has traveled through Utah for work since then.  Unfortunately I was working both times he was here.  

Five days after I went out with B, I went out on a date with C.  We had great banter back and forth via text.  And we were both very excited to meet each other.  We started  chatting due to our love for tacos.  And decided to go out on Taco Tuesday at a new Taco Place that just opened.  Dinner wasn't very long and he claimed he had to leave due to work, as he started a new business the day prior.  And as we left, he said he would like to keep chatting.  But by the end of the night, I got a text from him saying he was too busy with work right now.  And Good Luck with everything I have going on.  So, It was my first rejection.  And that is OK.  I am not going to change for someone.  I am me.  And you will either like me or not like me.  I'm old enough and lived long enough to know I would rather be a lone then with someone who doesn't like me.

Fast forward to this week.  I have a really good friend, T.  T and I have worked together for a few years.  But since my divorce, it seemed like new found flirting has ensued.  My son is in the Orchestra for his  school play, playing the clarinet.  So I bought 2 tickets for the play.  I asked T if he wanted to go with me.  He is leaving on Saturday to work for the summer in Colorado.  So it would be nice to do something together before he left.  He accepted.  And just 2 days ago, we went to the play together.  He came over and I cooked dinner.  Then we chatted for awhile.  Afterwards we headed over to the play.  We had assigned seats when one bought the tickets.  I always sit in a certain area of the auditorium when I am there for any concert or things.  Well we were sitting there talking and just waiting for the play to start when I turned my head and saw my Ex, G.  Oh my!  6 shows and we both chose the same one to go see.  Normally I would not care if I saw him.  But I had T with me.  And G walked right past us.  Not sure if he saw me or not.  But I saw him.  I kept saying out loud for T to hear, Please don't look over here, please.  Such an awkward moment for me.  Will I ever get used to encounters like this?  After the play was over, we walked to my car, as I drove us to the school.  And T opened my car door.  Oh my, I could not believe it.  I can't remember the last time someone opened the door for me.  I thanked him.  And as I was driving home, I noticed he added a little decor to my car.  I drive a Jeep.  And I have a little blue duck on the dash of my jeep windshield.  Its a jeep thing, the ducks.  Anyway, T had brought a little duck to add to my windshield dash.   Something as little as a duck and a door being opened has put a little more excitement in my life.  T will be working 3 weeks in Colorado and 1 week in Utah.   So the plan is to see each other again when he is back in town.  Until then, we still have Marco Polo and Texting.  

Dating is a weird thing.  I don't know what to make of it.  It is putting yourself out there.  It is full of rejections and free dinners. 







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